Where is everyone?

[pegdragger]

It's been kind of quiet in here lately. What's everyone up to these days??

[Diamond Lil]

I've been visiting and seen just a couple of us here, you included Mike.
The weather has been just awful for us out at the west end of the Finger Lakes and I cannot imagine that it is any better for you. Riding has been a real challenge. 4 days we planned to ride, and take the camera out, and got stopped by rain. I will not ride out into the rain.

Other than that, work, play, sleep. :D

[pegdragger]

same here Lil. The weather has been horrid! Rain and more rain. I haven't taken too many pics lately either. Hopefully soon it will break and things will get back to normal.

[Diamond Lil]

There is hope! Here is what we should be sending out your way!!!

[pegdragger]

Looks a lil better! I can't wait to ride again!

[Diamond Lil]

I'm going to try to get enough work done so it will be possible this afternoon!

[synseer]

I'm in an out depending on the days requirements. Plus lately I have not been taking near as many photos as I had been when this place first opened up. :(

[Max]

A lot of it has been my fault. Life has been crazy so I have ignored most everything while I try to get some sort of normal life back.

[pegdragger]

A lot of it has been my fault. Life has been crazy so I have ignored most everything while I try to get some sort of normal life back.

Didn't mean you Big Guy! I know you are dealing with a lot right now. I haven't seen CBM in quite some time....Did he start his courses?

[Diamond Lil]

A lot of it has been my fault. Life has been crazy so I have ignored most everything while I try to get some sort of normal life back.

Max,
Haven't you taught us something about it's the members that make a forum?

[Max]

Max,
Haven't you taught us something about it's the members that make a forum?

Lil the members make any forum but they don't just happen IMHO. They need a person that looks at every post and responds in some way, if nothing else just to acknowledge that the post was read. That I haven't done because right now I'm still a basket case from the loss of my Jeannie. I may never be the same again but I'm trying to make myself get back into doing more then just going through the motions of being alive.

[pegdragger]

Max, take your time. We will be just fine until you are ready. I was just trying to start a new thread and didn't really have a good topic.

[Diamond Lil]

Lil the members make any forum but they don't just happen IMHO. They need a person that looks at every post and responds in some way, if nothing else just to acknowledge that the post was read. That I haven't done because right now I'm still a basket case from the loss of my Jeannie. I may never be the same again but I'm trying to make myself get back into doing more then just going through the motions of being alive.

Max, I hear you. Have you been able to start any of the projects that were on your mind?

[Max]

Max, I hear you. Have you been able to start any of the projects that were on your mind?

I am starting a few of the small ones but nothing to brag about. I am making myself get out and having a lot of good friends are my only saving grace at this time. I still spend way too many hours by myself in a house 3 times larger then I need but right now I have part of the house just closed off so I don't have to deal with it and just live in half the house anyway.

[Diamond Lil]

I'm so glad you have virtual and real friends Max. It is so good that you make yourself get out. Keep doing it. If an extended road trip were ever possible you could visit oh so many of us!!!

It sounds to me like you are doing what you must, which is an incredible accomplishment.

[Max]

I'm so glad you have virtual and real friends Max. It is so good that you make yourself get out. Keep doing it. If an extended road trip were ever possible you could visit oh so many of us!!!

It sounds to me like you are doing what you must, which is an incredible accomplishment.

Lil all I know how to do is move forward, baby steps it seems but I am moving forward. Of course moving forward doesn't keep me from having fond memories of the past and missing them.

As far as long rides go this death being so close to me really has changed many things I once enjoyed and also scared me a little. I worry more about little things then I ever did before and at the same time the big things seem less important. Again I don't know if I will ever feel the same about many of the things that I really enjoyed before Jeannie passing. I do feel I am getting better slowly though.

[Diamond Lil]

Max, thank God you are not moving backwards, and I mean that sincerely. One can get lost that way. And you know moving forward should not keep you from having fond memories of the past and missing them. They will be a part of you forever.

Having never lost a spouse, it is impossible for me to truly relate. When I was much younger over a period of not too many years a handful of people passed on and each of them was all too young. All were very close to my life and our emotional bonds were indescribable. They were my parents, a very best ever friend, a life long mentor, a dear cousin and a co-worker. What I can share is that as time went on a bit of insulation built up inside that protected me from having my core strength sucked out in a split second leaving me emotionally and near physically collapsed on the floor. There is a tremendous amount of indescribable pain in there and it still leaks out periodically. It can take my breath away. Going forward has allowed me to see a way to reminisce without breaking down and sometimes even smile from the inside out. It is part of the gift those gone have left behind. They are in my heart and mind forever. They are each a part of me.