Max....

[pegdragger]

How you holding up big guy? Please know we are all here for you if you need us....

[Diamond Lil]

We all are Max.

[LAVrod]

+1 here Max. There is no way for me to fathom and imagine how you are truly feeling but do know whatever you need, there are thousands of people around the world that will bend over backwards to help you out.

[Jags]

+2 sending all the sympathy and positivity I can.

[Shoe]

+3 Praying for you

[Max]

Thanks everyone, I guess I'm as good as can be expected right now. Just trying to take this one day at a time right now.

[Diamond Lil]

Max, please make sure to remember you in all of what you are going through. Please take care of your self.

[Max]

Lil I am trying to do just that, it will take time. I spent the last twelve months gearing up to take care of Jeannie. Everything I did was for Jeannie, hard to just switch that off.

[Diamond Lil]

From a friend who lost her husband too young I'm told making baby steps helps one learn how to begin doing so.

[Max]

From a friend who lost her husband too young I'm told making baby steps helps one learn how to begin doing so.

I'm trying trust me. The first thought that goes through my head when I wake is my Jeannie is gone and the last thought I think before I go to sleep is my Jeannie is gone. In between it passes through my mind about a million times. So far in the last week I can tell no change at all. I try to find something different to do each day to take my mind off things but nothing so far has been any real diversion. If this goes on I can see new carpet in the house from me pacing the floors. I do go out and buy a new movie every day to try to act as a diversion but even those can backfire unless they are funny or different, gotta watch out for the heart wrenchers because they don't help at all. I am lucky that I have so many good friends but I hate to impose on them and they have their own lives and little time to entertain me. I have been doing a lot of research on grieving and see it is very real and very painful, I am trying to follow some simple guidelines they have set to help but nothing to brag about as far as progress as yet. I know it's only been five days but I don't see this getting any better for a long time.

[Michael Hetrick]

Try some light exercise. Try something you've not done before. You don't want to do something that will trigger memories.

I doubt any of your real friends would consider you an imposition.

Oh, and cry a lot. That parts real important. Even if you are afraid that once you start you will never stop, cry and cry hard. You need that.

[pegdragger]

Try some light exercise. Try something you've not done before. You don't want to do something that will trigger memories.

I doubt any of your real friends would consider you an imposition.

Oh, and cry a lot. That parts real important. Even if you are afraid that once you start you will never stop, cry and cry hard. You need that.


I agree totally Mike. Well put.

[vrsca]

Real men do cry....
I don't very often, but if I lost my wife, there would definitely be a bucket full.

Keep praying Max and I'll pray with you.

[LAVrod]

Max,
I can only imagine, but hang in there. I've lost love ones, but not anyone yet that I share my whole life with. Like mike says cry--she is worth every tear. And when the tears stop, laugh--she is worth every laughter.

[Diamond Lil]

Try some light exercise. Try something you've not done before. You don't want to do something that will trigger memories.

I doubt any of your real friends would consider you an imposition.

Oh, and cry a lot. That parts real important. Even if you are afraid that once you start you will never stop, cry and cry hard. You need that.

Spot on!

[texasv-rod]

I am lucky that I have so many good friends but I hate to impose on them and they have their own lives and little time to entertain me.

You know, it's nice that you have a conscience and think that way, but I think you need not keep it from calling them. You know, Max - it's not like you're a hard person to be around!

You seem to be pretty good at picking your friends and I'm pretty sure you can rely on them - especially now. I wish I lived closer, bud.

[Max]

I truly am lucky despite all my complaining. I am blessed with some of the best friends anyone could ever have and they have shown the difference between true friends and just friends in the last week. Some locals have been here daily to check on me and call me all the time to make sure I'm good. Good people is all I can say about all of you.

[SawDawg]

Hang in there big guy. Time is the best healer.